Showing posts with label budget. Show all posts
Showing posts with label budget. Show all posts

Saturday, January 24, 2026

All or Nothing

My mom and I were talking yesterday and I mentioned how if I'm going to change a habit I am "all or nothing" about it. Doing things a little bit at a time never worked for me. Case in point. My wonderful husband and I have been together 33 years. I was pregnant within 3 months of dating (the second time around.) SURPRISE! And we moved in together two weeks after I found out. We were married less than a year later. All or nothing. And that worked out just fine for me.


So I don't just start eating one Vegan meal a week. I go full Vegan. It's going great.

I don't just "watch my spending." I stop spending completely. Well, now that Target's off limits (for supporting ICE) there goes a giant will to spend. I'm also in the "purging" phase of the year. Cleaning things out. Giving away. Not the acquiring phase, so that helps. 

A beautiful orchid I brought back from the dead.
A friend gives me her dead orchids and I bring them back to life.

Honestly I really want for nothing. I have a closet literally bursting with beautiful clothes. I have shoes that keep my feet comfy and ankles stable. I have a travel wheelchair, big wheelchair and walking sticks. I have a stunning new car. A warm house to keep me safe. Plenty of good food to eat. Books to read, TV to watch, a soft bed to rest in. More than enough blankets to wrap up in. Hot water for bathing. You get the idea. In many parts of the world I would be considered RICH.

Most of all I have many people who love and care about me. That feels amazing. So no... I don't need to go to Home Goods and get that Valentines placement. I want to go to the pottery studio and create something that didn't exist before I made it.

I don't want to go to Costco and buy new pillows. I want to get berries to feed my mitochondria. I want to walk my dogs, hug a tree, watch the birds, build a birdhouse, tend my garden, hug people I love. All free pleasures in life. I'm all in.


Monday, December 30, 2024

Are you a mini or a maxi?

I've been a massive maximalist most of my life. But deep down inside has always been a minimalist dying to come out.


I'm a maximalist in all ways. Spending, decorating, buying clothes for my dogs, eating, loving people. It's very easy for me to go way over the top in all areas of my life. My husband will ask me if I want something now, or later? Both is always my answer. Did I want to go on a trip for our 30th anniversary or get a nice piece of jewelry? Both of course. Would I like the appetizer or dessert? Uhhhh BOTH!

See the pattern? 

Restraint, budgeting, minimalism, living withing my means, decorating within the boarders of my walls... nope. Big no to all of that.


I'm an expert money spender!

2025 is knocking. It's the perfect time for reflection and change.

1 - I want to be much less of a consumer. Both with my wallet and my mouth.

2- I want to de-clutter my environment. Donations and Ebay selling are the best way to purge.

3- I want to be more on top of my finances. As long as I'm not working (and I don't think that's changing soon) I feel I need to be more responsible about my budget.

4- Be out in nature more. 

5- Be more active with the dogs & take them out with me more. That always takes a ton of spoons, but I feel it is very worth it.

I also want to embrace new ways to self sooth that don't involve hurting myself (by over-eating or by over-spending.)

WHEW! That's a big list. Notice how "weight loss" isn't there?
When I put pressure on myself by turning my focus on that, I fail. I'm tired of failing, so I'm not making it a goal right now. My hope is by trying to do a better job of taking care of myself and simplifying my surroundings, other things will fall into place.

Happy New Year.
I wish nothing but amazing things for us in 2025.




Sunday, November 18, 2018

Mobility Aide Review

I've had the privilege to be able to try out a lot of different mobility devices this year. Yes, I say "privilege" because they are very expensive, hard to acquire and I know they aren't an option for everyone. Knowing that I thought it might be helpful for you to hear my thoughts on each one, what I find useful and how pricy it is. That way if you can only afford one you can choose the best one for you. So here we go:

#1) Nordic Poles - Price $21-$100
My poles have rubber "walker" tips that can be removed. Under that are metal spike tips that are great for sand, dirt, gravel, etc... I used these poles when my muscle weakness first hit and at the beach. They are wonderful for walking through sand and offer extra stability. Also good for people with minor muscle weakness who just need a little extra. I've used both 1 pole and 2 poles. I preferred 1 for around town use and 2 for any "off road" walking. The plus side with poles is no one gives you a second glance. If you don't like attention with your mobility device, it's a bonus.


#2) Rollator - Price $70-$200
I love "Meg" my rollator. Mine has a seat and I bought it specifically for when I'm out and need to take a break. Seats are hard to find in shops and small towns. It's great just to be able to sit when you're standing in a long line. The down-side of a rollator is it can be hard to push, especially outside over cracks, small rocks, through gravel, etc. Like REALLY hard to push. Really REALLY REALLY hard to push. You get the idea. 

People also do stare a little bit, but not much. If you drop something, expect someone to get it for you. People hold doors open for you, etc... You'll also match the over 70 crowd, but go you for defying stereotypes! I actually had a younger woman tell me she needs one for her RA but was embarrassed to use it. But after seeing me out in mine she's going to buy one. YAY!


#3) Public Electric Shopping Carts - FREE!
Yes, I do consider these a mobility device. Most stores have them available for shoppers. They range between super slow (I'm looking at you Target) to shockingly speedy (Yay Costco!) They make shopping much easier but do come with many drawbacks. One is you're limited to what you can buy based on the size of your basket. Another is other shoppers do NOT consider them to be a mobility device. I think most people just think you're lazy if you use one. Expect others not to get out of your way, to give you judging looks and to just be somewhat jerky in general. Of course that doesn't stand for all people. Just my own experience. 

Another down side is most stores tend to forget about people using them and design their layout so it's very hard to navigate. I bump things and knock things down frequently. I also HATE the "BEEP BEEP BEEP" of backing up, so I try hard not to need to do that. Also they can move so slow that if I forget something on the other side of the store I just tend to let it go. 


#4) Transport Wheelchair - Price $70-$200
My transport chair seen here was around $130. A transport chair is a wheelchair that the person sitting in can't make go. You need someone to push you. They're very light and fold up to fit in any car (just like a walker and a rollator.) The plus side is no walking or muscle use is required for the person in the chair. The down side is they have zero control and are 100% reliant on the person pushing them. Another down is it is hard to go over transition strips, cracks and other minor hazards because of the small wheels. They do best in smooth places like malls, stores and museums. They also aren't comfortable to sit in for a very long period of time. Short term, they're great.

People don't seem to notice it as much as an electric chair. In fact it has been my experience that you become totally invisible in this thing. People will tend to talk to the person pushing you instead of you and will look at them instead of you. It's very odd and totally different then when you're in an electric chair or using a rollator.


#5) Compact, Folding, Electric Wheelchair - Price $2,000 - $5,000
The Fold and Go chair you see here is priced at $2,795. These wheelchairs are typically designed for travel. They are light (around 50-100lbs) and can fit into the trunk of any standard car. I don't own one yet, but this is next on my purchase list. 

These chairs appeal to me because of what I just mentioned, but they're also more comfortable than a transport chair if you're out all day and the person in the chair can control where they're going. That means way more independence. You also aren't reliant on a caregiver, so you can use it when solo. IF you can get it in and out of the car alone. Some insurance companies cover these chairs, but mine does not. Bummer. 


#6) Traditional Electric Wheelchair - Price $5,000 - $30,000
This is a picture of my chair and the receipt states it was $16,000. Luckily for me, my insurance company agreed it was needed and covered the cost for me. The up-side of this kind of chair is it is very comfortable, I have complete control and don't need help to use it, it is heavy duty and able to go all day, it has 6 wheels and feels very stable, it has strong shocks and doesn't hurt going over doorways, cracks, rocks, bumps, etc...

The down side of this chair (other than cost) is size and weight. It weighs just under 300lbs and is too heavy for my Kia Soul. That means I either am relying on public transportation, or I have to get a new car to use it. Luckily I happen to live very close to our downtown and can get around locally without driving. BUT that hugely limits where I can use it. Which is why my next purchase will be a Fold and Go. The other down side is it took me 3 months to get this chair through my insurance. I think that was actually very fast. Like a car there's also maintenance that the chair requires annually. 

People WILL stare, look, nod, gaze and in general notice when you use this big beast. But as my husband said "I've never seen people be so... nice!" It's true. Everyone will be nice to you, stop for you, hold doors for you, let you pet their dog, etc. VERY different experience than the poles or an electric shopping cart. If you're into psychology it will be a fascinating experience for you. You also are up a bit higher than the transport chair (which is exactly butt level.) So if having everyone's butts in your face holds no appeal, this chair is a major improvement. 


As my muscle weakness has progressed so have my tools that I use. Also as I go through the day my muscles gas out and I need more and more support. So yesterday I went from walking to using my rollator to using my transport chair at the last 2 stores we visited. At times like that I really miss my electric chair. I really don't like the transport chair, but need to listen to my body. I'm looking forward to having an electric chair that will fit in my car and I can use out and about when not in our town.

Hope this little run-down helped you! 

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