Help While I Wait

The other day I received this text message that made me feel hopeful and excited. It meant that my spinal tap was approved and ready to be scheduled.

If there's anything I hate more than being sick, it's waiting and the unknown.

I called first thing this morning to schedule and was told that the message was sent by "mistake" and that I haven't been approved yet. In fact my insurance was saying that "The referral didn't meet criteria and the neurologist is having to re-submit." In English that means I could be in for a long wait. 

Aside from hating to wait and wanting to know 100% what's going on, I was hoping to get this all done before I start work again on the 23rd. That's less than 3 weeks. Now I have a feeling that's just not going to happen. Which means I'll likely have to deal with starting a new job while recovering from a spinal tap. Great.

Hopelessness and frustration visited me for a little bit this morning. But then like a Harry Potter patronous chasing away a dementor, I had a really helpful thought. Bob Marley's song "3 Little Birds" just literally started playing in my head. It was instantly soothing and helpful. 

Three Little Birds

Bob Marley

Don't worry about a thing
'Cause every little thing gonna be alright
Singing' don't worry about a thing
'Cause every little thing gonna be alright

Rise up this mornin'
Smiled with the risin' sun
Three little birds
Pitch by my doorstep
Singin' sweet songs
Of melodies pure and true
Saying', (this is my message to you)

Singing' don't worry 'bout a thing
'Cause every little thing gonna be alright
Singing' don't worry (don't worry) 'bout a thing
'Cause every little thing gonna be alright

Rise up this mornin'
Smiled with the risin' sun
Three little birds
Pitch by my doorstep
Singin' sweet songs
Of melodies pure and true
Sayin', this is my message to you

Singin' don't worry about a thing, worry about a thing, oh
Every little thing gonna be alright, don't worry
Singin'…

I also remembered some of my favorite RA bloggers and the excellent advice they had shared. Here's some of my top finds:

• RA Guy - Through the Looking Glass
• Ilana Jacqueline - 5 Ways You're Not "Living" With Chronic Illness
• Arthritic Chick - My New Wheelchair (the blog post I was never going to write.)
• The Mighty - 20 Gentle Date Ideas for People With Chronic Illness

These are very diverse articles in theme, but each one touched me in an incredibly helpful way. Each is encouraging and supports some central themes:

1. Your life doesn't stop because you're chronically ill. 
2. Work around what you can't do and do more of what you can.
3. Romance and love are powerful and healing. Don't stop that because of your sickness. (see number 2 instead.)
4. Don't live your life waiting. Waiting for results, appointments or other people's opinions.
5. Don't stop doing what you love just because it's harder now.
6. What you're going through is very hard. Find tools that make it easier (see number 2.)
7. Don't let other's opinions (including your doctors) define what you can and can't do. Listen to your wise body.
8. You have nothing to prove to anyone. Do what's right for you.

All of these are reminders that I still need on a fairly regular basis. I'm still very much adjusting to what comes easy for me and what is now harder. I have "gloomy days" to be sure. But I notice they don't stick around for as long as before. I also can see how this experience is encouraging me to grow in areas that are hard for me. Patience, trust, self empathy and mindfulness.