Patiently Being Impatient

I've become an expert at patiently being impatient. Patience is not one of my many (many) virtues. I've never been a patient person. However, when you're a patient, you HAVE to have patience. When my son was little there was a Sesame Street song that just nails it. It goes "You have to be patient, to be a patient..." Oh Maria, you wise a$$ woman you. 

So here I am. Patiently waiting to hear back from my Rheumatologist about a question I asked her. Patiently waiting for my May 1st appointment with my primary care doctor to explore anything I can do or take that might help while I PATIENTLY wait for my June 27th appointment with my new neurologist. See... that third one got me. I'm out of patience (and apparently can't spell "rheumatologist" to save my life.)

My BFF - the cup cozy for all cold things

And meanwhile back in pins, needles, numb, temperature sensitive, fire-ants-are-eating-me-alive land, I breathe and remind myself to be patient. 

I read this really wonderful quote yesterday from The Book of Joy. "If something can be done about the situation, what need is there for dejection? And if nothing can be done about it, what use is there for being dejected?" -Shantideva

I just adore that word "dejected." YES! I feel dejected! I feel it hard core! To my gut! To the PAIN (a little Princess Bride humor for you there.) And to force myself to instead feel hope, optimism, patience, is no simple task.

The Dalai Lama says that "As we recognize others' suffering and realize that we are not alone, our pain is lessened." I completely agree. I think that's one of the reasons I enjoy reading other people's blogs about chronic illnesses, autoimmune disease and other challenges similar to mine. It makes me feel not so alone. And when I see that someone has similar symptoms or struggles, it feels comforting AND validating.

Most of the time with doctors I feel like I'm trying to describe a world to someone who has no sight. It's just impossible. To share with others who can see what I see and feel how I feel is incredibly liberating. It gives me hope.

Spring is a time for renewal. 

I'm doing my best to join in on the growth!

The Dalai Lama also says that "The way we heal our own pain is actually by turning to the pain of others." I do notice that while I'm at work hearing of other people's deep pain, mine slips away. For that hour I can focus on comforting someone else rather than being the one who needs comfort. It is a very healing experience (hopefully for us both.) I feel very fortunate to do what I do.

I'm working on reaching out and sharing more of my experience with others. Making new friends and opening up more. For today I wish you good health and lots of love and patience.