I can't tell!!!

One of the hardest things for me about having a chronic, progressive condition is the lack of stability and predictability. I honestly can't tell what I'll be able to do from one day to the next. I know I'm far from alone with that feeling of instability. But that's no consolation.

Sometimes I feel like I honestly can't walk at all. Sometimes I feel ok to garden for an hour (though I always pay for it later). Sometimes I think it's only a matter of time before I'm hooked up to a ventilator. Other times I feel my body has really stabilized. The constant uncertainty is stressful and hard on not just me. 

My family can only go by what they see and what I tell them. Of course I don't give them a constant play by play of my body. "Now I have a cramp in my left calf, now my lower back is spasming, now my right eye is twitching..." They aren't me so they can't possibly know. Or as much as they try, understand. It's terrifying. I feel a constant undercurrent of panic no matter how mindful I try to be. "Is this the last day I can walk? Is this the last time I'll be able to do this?" These are things I think about daily. 

If even I can't tell what's going on in my body from one day to the next how could my family? If I don't know what I need or what's helpful, how could they? I do know that it helps me to talk and share the important things going on with me. Including my fears.

I'm very lucky in that when I share with my family, they take it seriously. I still remember talking to my husband about needing a rollator. It was a very hard conversation, but needed. I ALWAYS feel heard, respected and helped by my entire family. Which when I can't tell what's going on with my body is just what I need. 

I've learned what doesn't work for me is pushing myself too hard just in case I won't be able to do something in the future. It's what I have a tendency to do and my body doesn't thank me for it. I need to take it slow and cross each bridge as I come to them.