Living in fear

Wasn't there once a high school class called "Health and Safety?" I seem to recall making kissing jokes while people tried to perform CPR on a dummy. But that was a very long time ago.

Today with the Coronavirus all over the news health and safety are at the forefront of my mind. Not "stockpiling toilet paper" on my mind, but enough on my mind that I'm taking extra precautions. Given my heath issues I don't think it would surprise anyone if I just self quarantined till this was all over. But I'm not. Here's why.

Shopping at Costco with my cotton gloves on yesterday.

Five years ago I contracted TB. It's also an airborn virus that frequently kills people. Fortunately for me there was treatment for it, although nine months long and damaging. After I recovered and was about to return to work I developed a serious phobia. My phobia was about people coughing and being in close contact with others. Strangers were the worst. If I had to shake someone's hand I was left almost in a panic. I had developed a real germ phobia that was interfering with my life. 

What got me out of it was this. I realized that the fear of getting sick again was ruining my everyday life. My quality of life was going down because of fear. So I rationalized with myself. Told myself I can take reasonable precautions (not hug someone whose sick, buy an air purifier for my office), but that anything outside of hand washing and common sense was just me letting the fear into my life. I refused to do that so I decided not to. And that was it. Literally from that day on the panic stopped. 

Fear was telling me that I was going to get sick again. Something in reality I have very little control over. Zoom ahead five years and I still refuse to let fear dictate my life to me. No one knows how long they have. I could be in a car accident, get run over in my wheelchair, get food poisoning, have a stroke. I have no idea how or when, but I do know that I'm going to make the most of it and not live in fear.

I will wash my hands for 20 seconds, I will brush my teeth twice a day, go to my doctors appointments, use hand sanitizer and not be stupid. But I will not stock pile toilet paper, buy every Clorox wipe there is, or cancel plans I've looked forward to because of fear. Fear will not dictate my life or how I live it. That's a choice that I made years ago and I never looked back.